“Wish We Had…”: What Couples Often Regret After the Big Day—And How to Avoid It

Planning a wedding is a whirlwind of dreams, decisions, and details.

At Something Blue Events, we believe every celebration should reflect the heart of the couple, not the weight of regrets. That’s why we’re sharing some of the most common post-wedding “wish we hads” couples experience, so you can sail past them with confidence.

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1. We wish we had hired a videographer.

Photos capture stillness. Video captures voices, laughter, and the way your partner looked at you during your vows. Many couples later realize how much they miss hearing those little moments—the tremble in a voice, the joyful chaos of the dance floor.

My husband was actually against hiring a videographer, mostly due to budget reasons, but after I walked him through the pros and cons, he relented—and now he’ll tell you it was THE BEST money we spent besides our coordination team.

When speaking with potential videographers, be clear about what matters to you most. If capturing only the ceremony is your priority, many professionals can tailor a package that fits your needs AND your budget.

2. We invited too many “obligation guests.”

Your wedding should feel like home, surrounded by the people who truly matter. Couples often regret expanding their guest list out of pressure, only to feel disconnected from their day.

Your wedding is not a family reunion, if you want a reunion, have a barbecue. We heeded that advice, and it was one of the best decisions we made. By following some thoughtful guidelines, we ended up with a truly intimate day surrounded by the absolute closest people to us.

Something Blue Events will provide you with the tools to narrow down your guest list and help you politely explain your decisions, ensuring your celebration stays authentic and drama-free.

3. We barely spent time with our guests.

The day flies. Between timelines, formalities, and photo ops, many couples are surprised by how little time they had to truly connect with their guests.

That’s where Something Blue Events excels. We build buffers into your timeline to create breathing room, not just for logistics, but for presence. Time to eat. Time to laugh. Time to really take it all in.

Intentional scheduling, paired with a thoughtful guest list, lets you slow down and stay connected to the people and the moments that matter most.

4. We hired the wrong photographer.

Budget constraints are real, but this is one area worth the splurge. Inexperienced photographers may miss meaningful moments or deliver lackluster results. Look for someone whose style and personality truly align with yours. It’s more than a transaction, it’s a partnership.

We had the best photography and videography team! They truly took the time to connect with us and listened to our wants and needs. Plus, they didn’t hate us after getting completely soaked during our grand exit! We love them, and we’re proud to work with professionals who deliver stunning photos and wholeheartedly support their couples.

Finding a team that understands your vibe means your memories won’t just be captured, they’ll be cherished.

5. We didn’t have a weather backup plan.

Rain happens. So does wind, heat, and unexpected cold snaps. A solid Plan B ensures that no matter the skies, your celebration shines.

As a Florida girl, I know this all too well. When we were touring venues, I paid close attention to the backup ceremony locations because here’s the truth: if you do not like the Plan B site, that is not your venue. Full stop. If you end up having to move inside and hate the look or feel of the space, it will absolutely color your memories of the day.

Choose a venue with a backup you love just as much as the outdoor option. That way, you’ll feel at peace no matter what the weather decides. And if you’re unsure or overwhelmed, Something Blue Events is here to help guide you through those questions and make sure you’re prepared for every possibility, with elegance and ease.

6. We went overboard with DIY.

Personal touches are lovely but not if they leave you sleep-deprived and stressed. There’s a fine line between DIY to save money and DIY that costs more in the long run once you factor in tools, supplies, and time.

There were a few things that were important for us to DIY because I wanted a cohesive look for all of our signage, and it was just the right amount of personal detail. But it turned out to be much more cost-effective to hire professionals for the rest. We also found that renting décor instead of buying saved us money, and spared us the hassle of storing, transporting, setting up, tearing down, or trying to sell things afterward.

Let professionals take care of the heavy lifting so you can focus on the meaningful moments and maybe even sleep the night before your wedding.

7. We forgot to eat…or drank too much.

It sounds silly, but it’s more common than you’d think. Amid all the excitement, couples often forget to nourish themselves and end up missing half the dinner they so carefully chose.

This is where Something Blue Events steps in. As your coordinator, I make sure you get your food first and actually have a moment to enjoy it—whether you’re seated at your Sweetheart Table or having a private dinner during cocktail hour.

Now, I can't regulate your alcohol intake (you’re a grown-up, after all), but I can make sure you’re eating and hydrating throughout the day. That way, you won’t hit a wall or risk a fainting spell just as the dance floor starts heating up.

8. We let others' opinions override our vision.

From Pinterest boards to pushy relatives, outside voices can drown out your own. But your wedding? It’s not a committee decision.

Something Blue Events is your champion. We’ll stand with you when Gramma Sue says your black dress is a “bold” choice (and not in a good way). Here’s the truth: the only wrong choice is the one that leaves you unhappy or full of regret.

It. Is. Your. Day. Full stop. And as your coordinator, I’ll make sure your celebration reflects you and your partner—your style, your vision, your love story. Unapologetically.

Final Thoughts: Regret-Proofing Your “I Do”

Your wedding should feel like you, through and through. At Something Blue Events, we help couples sidestep these regrets by creating intentional, joy-filled celebrations that leave no room for “we wish we had.” With the right guidance and a little foresight, your only post-wedding thought should be, "We wouldn’t change a thing."

Let’s make that your story, too. Schedule your free consultation today and let Something Blue Events help you create a celebration that’s uniquely yours—from the big picture to the tiniest detail.